My own GasLighting Experience..

Listed here below are some personal examples of the most common ways and phrases my latest ex - Dale, used to use to "gaslight" me. These are all things he would say CONSTANTLY; they were always factually incorrect nonsense, and said to either get the upperhand in an argument before it had even started, to preempt an upcoming scheme, or simply just to somehow discredit me, my memory and my reality - thus making me unsure of myself and thereby forcing me to unwittingly become more dependent on him for reliable choices and information.

In my next few posts i will be referencing and addressing each of these examples, explain them in further detail, as well as try give you real world or actual examples or where, when and how these would each have been used!!

• "Do you agree?"
• "I know you dont care about X, but I do."
• "You've never worked a day in your life!"
• "You're so boring!"
• "You've really changed - when we just met you would have jumped on this idea!"
• "Look how you act!"
• "I would explain if you ever gave me a chance to speak"
• "I know we had an agreement but maybe ive changed my mind"
• "We didnt agree - you agreed - i never agreed!"
• "I'm so sorry that i did that / acted that way / overreacted like that / treated you so badly - i dont know why i do it. Its like i just see red and i have no control over my actions."
• "I'm not even going to respond to that."
• "I can see you just want to start a fight again"
• "I told you this would happen"
• "I told you this would happen if you X"
• "I am so tired of your lies / constant lieing!"
• "Why wont you just tell me where X is?? I know you know where it is so just tell me!"
• "Ah god you're crying again - just stop the tears ok noone believes this little show of yours!"
• "Youre so stupid!! How can you still not get this???"
• "This house is already so digusting, just look around! So why does it matter if i make more of a mess?"
• "No wonder your dad used to hit you!!"
• "No wonder your father left - look how you act!!"
• "Have you ever wondered why we arent having sex?!"
• " Stop nagging me!"
• "Sweep?? Do i look like the maid?!"
• "What do you mean i dont help - who was it who fixed your moms car last week / last month??"
• "What do you mean wheres the money?? You just have no idea what things cost!"
• "I never took / had / drew that much money - youre wrong!!"
• "What crap are you talking?!"
• "Why would i lie??"
• "You can never remember anything!"
• "Were not talking aabout the past here - were talking from here going forward."
• "Thats not what I said"
• "Thats not how that happened"
• "You know you're wrong!"
• "You know what I'm saying is true!"
• "Just because I'm dating a slut doesnt mean I want my daughter to be one.."
• "People like us just dont care about X / dont do X / always lie about X"
• "Youre just like me - we will both do anything in that moment just to win the fight!"
• "Yes youre paying for everything, but what about all those years when you were lieing on my neck and I was paying for everything??"
• "Call the hotel if you dont believe me - i booked a double room because I was planning on calling you to come join me, but then I thought about how fucked up you were and I decided against it"
• "I called all those prostitutes to get prices for if we ever wanted to book one again, but youre soooo boring lately that will probably never happen again!"
• "Everyone warned me against you when we got together"
• "Everyone warned me this would happen"
• "Youve been planning this all along, well done!!"
• "Youve just been using me!!"
• "You never loved me"
• "I'm not blaming you - I blame myself for listening to you."
• "Youre right, / you were right / XXX"
• "Were not talking about me now - were talking about you!"

As you continue to read on in my blog and watch my video channel on youtube, you will learn more about this term "gaslighting" and hopefully you will be able to get a clearer idea and understanding of what it is and what its purposes are. 

Basically, in a nutshell, it is phrases and techniques employed by Narcissists, Psycopaths, Sociopaths and all other "Type B" cluster personality disorders in an attempt to control and manipulate you by making you doubt yourself, making you seem crazy to yourself and others, making you doubt your own reality / perception / memory so that it is easier for them to feed you lies, to make you more manageable and gullible to their stories, to discredit you among the people around you, to put you on the backfoot and keep you there, and to incite a certain level of fear inside you when it comes to arguing ith them or voicing your own contradictory opinions. 

There are, in fact, many many many more reasons for doing this, and ways in which they achieve it, and i will be getting to as many of them as i possibly can, now and in the future - so keep reading and following ok!!

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Be safe my lovelies,

Mwa***