Intro into Narcissism (as according to me!)

 The biggest problem to do with Narcissism, in my opinion, is how very little we know, and is known about it in general. Most people foolishly think, as i foolishly thought, that calling someone a narcissist was just a fancy way of saying that they're an asshole!! Which it is, don't get me wrong!! But there is just so much more to it than that, and that "much more", is what I'm going to attempt to teach you guys about..

The other MAJOR problem with narcissists and narcissistic abuse, is that its very hard to spot; especially if you have no idea what it is, or if you have never been through it before.

As a narc survivor (thats what we call narcissists when we talk about them alot!), I can now honestly say that it was, without a doubt, the worst, and darkest, time in my life. The problem was, though, that during that time - those ten years, i had no idea what was going on. I had no idea that I was in a 'TOXIC' relationship, or that I was dating a narcissist, or that I was actually even being abused at all - it's THAT powerful!!

The specific Modus Operandi (MO) that they / narcissists follow, and they ALL follow it, is so specifically and BRILLIANTLY designed to go undetected; sometimes even for years or decades at a time. It has a very set guideline to it aswell, which i will get to in a later post, and if you, or someone you may know, is or has fallen for it at any point in your life/lives, then dont feel bad. Dont be ashamed. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! 

It is not your fault that you didnt know, or somehow assume, that this amazing , beautiful, confident person that you met and fell inlove with, was never real to begin with. They were NEVER that person. They NEVER cared about you. They NEVER loved you. Nothing they EVER said was real. They were just USING you. and they will NOT miss you when youre gone!!! These things are hard to hear, theyre harder to admit, and hardest to accept. But YOU HAVE TO!! 

You have got to hear these things, and come to accept these things as your new and aweful truth. Because the sooner you do, the sooner you will come to learn who and what they really are, and that that kind of hollow shell of a person is not someone that you can build a life with. They are not someone who you can "save" if you love them enough. They can NEVER be saved, and they will NEVER change; and why, you may ask? Because they 

• A) Don't think they need to
• B) Don't know or wont believe that theres actually anything wrong with them
• C) What they're doing is working for them, just as it has been their entire life, and 
• D) THEY ARE PERFECT THE WAY THEY ARE (atleast in their own minds!)

And, sadly, it is because of this self perceived "perfection" they see inside themselves, that they *will NEVER  A) admit they have a problem or personality disorder, and

                         B) actively seek help or treatment for it.

This is why it is so sad to see, deal with, and eventually walk away from these kinds of people, especially for those (tragic souls) of us who feel drawn to the broken, and to those 'special projects' in need of being saved. 

*will almost never / in most cases

*real boys as a referance to pinochio and the difference between when 

he was a 'real boy' instead of the wood and strings puppet without 

any real feelings or emotions

We assume that they are *real boys, like the rest of us, and, that when confronted with proof that they are "different" or "lacking certain emotional skills or traits", they will look at the evidence, reflect on how it is perhaps different to them, accept this as proof that they have a problem, and immediately be open to doing seeking help and something about it.. but they they wont!!!

Instead, they will become suddenly and inexplicably enraged, go brusquely onto the offensive, and viciously start attacking you with everything inside their arsenal.

This is why it is so extremely crucial that, once you are aware and fully sure that someone you know, or are dealing with, is a narcissist, that you DO NOT CONFRONT THEM, DO NOT MENTION IT, LEAVE NO TRACE THAT YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE, AND SIMPLY JUST LEAVE!!!

So thats all for me today, as always if you like what youve read here today (or even if you didnt!!) click on the follow button here below to subscribe to my blog so that you never miss a future post, and then drop me a comment to tell me what you thought of the post, or with any comments or questions you may have for me! Also please dont forget to follow the YouTube link to my You Tubechannel - RoxyOnline, where I have, am and will keep posting fun and exciting videos about this same topic, and on many other interesting and even downright provocative ones aswell - so dont miss out!!!

Be safe my lovelies,

Mwa***