Narcissists

 Narcissists.. Narcissists.. Narcissits..

What / Who / Why / How  are these people??? This in itself is an EXTREMEMLY loaded question, and absolutely not something that we can ever tackle in only one post, on day, or even one year. 

There are so many small details about these people and their unsettling behaviour that are easy to forget about, or to look over, yet each and every one of them are so extremely significant in their overall "game", that it is almost impossible to capture them all together in one place and in an understandable manner. 

Also, what makes it 100 times trickier, is the fact that there are also so many different types of naricissists, including covert, overt, malignant, vulnerable, master, lesser, sociopathic, etc., each of them slightly different in their own way, but yet still all based along the same lines and whos behaviours are built on the same basic foundations. They are all, however, classified as "Cluster B" personality type disorders. I would not recommend trying to do too much personal research on this CLuster B personality disorder as a whole, as it is hugely voluminous and can be extremely complicated and overwhelming, ending up being just too much to digest and absorb in any meaningful way whatsoever. 

If you find yourself dealing with a narcissist, whether you are involed in a romantic relationship with one of them, were raised by one (or two) of them, am working for / with one of them, or even just suspect that you may be friends with one of them, my advice would be to first make sure that they fit the basic requirements in order to be categorised as a "narcissist", or rather a person with mainly narcissistic traits. As soon as you have done the checklist with that person in mind, and they have met most, if not all of the necessary criteria, you atleast have a baseline on which to work from, and from there you can start to go a bit deeper into it and even try figure out which kind(s) they are, not that i think it is completely necessary for you to do so, if you dont perhaps, have the time, means, resources, etc to do so - for once you know that you are dealing with a narcissist, the specific category into which they fall is not always highly significant, unless, for whatever reason, you cannot escape this persons poisonous grasp, and still have to spend whatever amount of time with or around them in the forseeable future, in which case you would need to do as much research as possible in order to figure out which exact type you are dealing with and what the best coping strategies are for these specific types of people.

If, however, you are in the fortunate position of being able to fully and completely extract this person from your life, then the only advice to which you have to listen and adhere to right now, is: 

RUN! RUN THE FUCK AWAY AS FAST AND AS FAR AS YOU CAN. RUN FROM THIS PERSON AS IF THEY LITERALLY ARE CHASING YOU WITH A BUTCHER KNIFE, AND ARE TRYING TO KILL YOU - WHICH THEY ARE!! JUST RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN...

And, if you are sitting there with a smug and pittying smile on your face, and thinking (wrongly), that you have landed on this blog by accident and that you know no such evil persona in your life, then you are lying to yourself, or, more correctly, they are. We are all living with or dealing with a narcissist in some way or another, we just probably dont know it yet. And the sad thing is, once you finally know, it is already sadly too late, because the only time you (normally) learn this word and what it means, it means that you are already so far down the rabbit hole that you have started doing research on the topic and that is how you landed on this blog, and / or others like it, of which there are MILLIONS!!

They are insidious, evil, heartless, terrible people that are all around us every day, and most often, they are the ones of whom you will be the least suspicious. The sad / scary thing about them is that on first meeting, or in casual or social settings, they appear and come across as charming, confident, together, sparkling, caring and happy people, and that is the base of their entire "game", and that is how they catch us and fool everyone else at the same time.

Dont get me wrong though, just because someone displays one or two narcissistic traits, are not necessarily full blown narcissists!! Only people who display most, if not all of the narcissitic traits should be classified as such. In fact, most people will diplay several narcissistc traits in varying degrees, such as confidence, entitlement, arrogance, infidelity, neediness etc. Being either, or all of these few thing, does not make you a narcissist, for sure it might make youta toxic persona, or at the very least slightly annoying in big doses! You need to be very careful, clear minded, honest and realistic in doing your research and doing the checklist / diagnosis of this person in order to be completely sure before you get carried away, only later to figure out that yore actually on the wrong train!!